The divorce process can be a very emotional and vulnerable time. Don’t make this universal mistake. As anyone who has ever split up with you can tell, the process isn’t always easy. Tensions run high, and the partner often makes bad decisions in the heat of the moment.
Given the many financial, instant, and emotional details that must be sorted out, it’s no surprise that many spouses end up making critical mistakes on the way to divorce. However, there are some things you should do, or rather not try, to reduce the chances that you will regret your decision later.
Don’t Get Pregnant When You’re Getting Divorce
Having a toddler during your divorce complicates things, and can even limit your right to separate. In November 2004, a Spokane County, Washington judge refused to allow Shawnna Hughes. A woman with two bodies, to divorce her aggressive husband. Hughes’ husband was not the father of her child. But because Hughes was a married couple during the divorce proceeding. State law deemed Hughes’ husband to be the father of the child he was born with until 300 days after his divorce. The judge refused to grant Hughes a divorce because he was afraid that no father would be financially responsible for the child. Although many states now grant single parents the same rights as married ones, having children when you are in the midst of marital uncertainty can be problematic.
Don’t forget to change your will
Parting does not automatically revoke the will. If you want to prevent your potential ex-partner from receiving the money and privileges granted in your will. You will need to update your will. You can re-execute the will at any time. But if you die before you are given a divorce and you don’t leave anything to your spouse. He or she can sue and recover part of your property.
Don’t Refuse Possible Divorce or Collaborative Mediation
In a collaborative divorce, you can get encouragement from professionals lawyers, divorce coaches, and therapists. To share property and manage emotional stress. Some critics of collaborative divorce believe that the lawyers. Divorce coaches, and therapists who participate in collaborative divorce are unprofessional, and waste too much time and money. But most jurisdictions with collaborative divorce have reported that collaborative divorce is more cooperative and less adversarial than traditional divorce.
Mediation is different. Only one third-party expert a divorce mediator will help you and your partner get to the convention. Mediation is more of an ongoing process than a one off intervention. While lawyers are generally not allowed to go through the mediation stage. You can check with an attorney at any time during the process to make sure you get the right outcome.
Don’t Take It Out on Children When You’re Getting Divorce
Children need a supportive place to experience a divorce. Minimize the amount you talk about the process. This will give you more time to be there for them. Refocus your energies so you can attend their school and after-school activities. Help them with homework, and take them out to the movies or the zoo every once in a while. When you relax, they relax more. While you should feel safe discussing divorce with your children. The purpose of the divorce is to take the stress off you and your family.
Don’t Refuse to See a Therapist
Seeing a therapist can help you get through the range of emotions you will experience when going through a divorce. It’s a great idea to get some encouragement before you get too stress or angry. They are also professionals who can show you how to relax. How to dialogue with your kids, and how to stay calm in court. Most importantly, a therapist can help you find ways to become independent.
Don’t Wait Until After the Holidays
You already know the holidays won’t be difficult. So why wait? Divorce lawyers often see an increase in clients before, during, and after Christmas. It’s also easier to adjust to an empty house before the holidays. If you wait (and fight) for a long time, you could destroy the opportunity for an amicable split and eventually settle your comparisons in court.
Don’t remember less about taxes
Generally, the person who is given custody of the child gets the house. But the house may not be the best of conventions. If you can’t afford the mortgage, taxes, and home maintenance. You’ll want to ask for an investment portfolio of equal value. However, before declaring yourself the king or queen of your block. Remember: single people are not allow to protect as much capital gains from tax as possible. Stocks can also be question. Newly purchase stock may be more desirable because it costs less in capital gains taxes.
Don’t Raise Your Debt When You’re Getting Divorce
Divorce is expensive. On top of attorney fees, you will need money to set up a new household. While it can be hard to make ends meet, you have to adjust to having less now. Remember, your legal bills and court fees may be due before you receive your initial alimony payment. Or even your share of the marital property. Although it may seem stressful, the freedom you will enjoy will be proportional to the struggle.
Putting aside strong emotions to work with your partne. And managing the more difficult issues of your breakup with a calm and level head will certainly pay off in the long run. Both of you will make wiser decisions and come out of the process with less bruises.